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Trauma
What is Trauma?
What is Trauma?
Trauma is an overload of your system
Big event or a small experience
Ongoing or brief
Current, past or intergenerational
Only means you are human
Violations of your mental, emotional, physical or spiritual boundaries
Experiencing or witnessing inhumanity
Lack of physical, emotional, mental or spiritual safety
Lack of support to process something painful, confusing or overwhelming
Denial or invalidation of your feelings, truth, or felt experiences
Unreasonable stress or demands on you mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually
Loss of structures, beliefs or people that have allowed you to feel safe
Continual uncertainty, unpredictability or lack of control
Oppression
Marginalization
Stigma
Not getting your basic human needs met
Not being seen, heard or valued for who you are
How does trauma happen?
How does trauma happen?
How does trauma affect us?
How does trauma affect us?
I can never slow down
I must always be doing and achieving
I have to make sure nothing bad ever happens
I can’t cope
I’m not safe
I can’t trust myself
I can’t trust others
The world is unsafe
I am alone
I am fake
There’s something wrong with me
I cannot tolerate sitting honestly and soberly with my self, my feelings and my thoughts
I’m bad
I’m worthless
I’m not decisive enough, not easy going enough, not socially skilled enough, not fun enough, not normal enough, not ______ enough
I don’t ask for help
I don’t deserve help
It’s all my fault
I have no energy
I can from instantly flip from zero to rage/panic/run/freeze when I get triggered
My memories are like live wires in my brain and body
You are seen and heard and understood, and you are not alone
You are real and your experiences are real
None of this means anything negative about you as a person
You are human
You are not responsible for the inhumane or scary things that happen to you or to your community
You deserve help
Memories can become memories and not constant torture or triggers
You have options and choices and power
You can learn to tolerate your own feelings
You decide how much trauma we process
You decide the pace of our work together
Elements of Healing
Elements of Healing